Personal Growth Is Not A Race

Atomic Essay, Personal Growth

Note: this post was originally written as an Atomic Essay as part of Ship 30 for 30 and posted on Twitter. I’ve copied the essay content here so it isn’t just lost in the endlessness of the Twitter feed. Enjoy!

In 2012, I realized something wasn’t working in my life.

I’d done all the things I was supposed to do (college, job, marriage, kid), but I couldn’t stop thinking, “Is this all there is to life?” I looked around at my friends and family and wondered why everyone else seemed fine to just go along with the status quo while it made me miserable.

I desperately wanted to be “normal” like everyone else, but I’m not wired that way.

One night, on a whim, I decided to consult Google and see what came up. I can’t remember now exactly what I typed – something like “why don’t I feel happy in my life?” One of the top results was a post on a forum from a Life Coach that would change the course of my life – I just wouldn’t realize it until later.

There is no destination in personal growth

Sometimes it feels like I should be further along and maybe if I pushed myself harder or took a different path I would be.

But if I actually compare myself now to that girl 10 years ago – desperately wishing she could just be “normal” – I am a completely different person. It doesn’t matter that the path to now was long and winding.

When it comes to personal growth, the only thing that matters is that you keep going – at whatever pace works for you.

See the original atomic essay on Twitter


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